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Let kids fall: The benefits of embracing risk in childhood

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  • Overprotective parenting can lead to decreased physical activity, lower confidence, and poor risk assessment skills in children.
  • Allowing children to experience minor bumps and falls is crucial for developing physical skills, problem-solving abilities, and resilience
  • Parents should focus on teaching "risk competence" rather than eliminating all risks, gradually increasing children's independence as they demonstrate readiness.

A growing body of research suggests that overprotecting children may actually be detrimental to their development. A recent study provides compelling evidence that allowing kids to take risks and experience minor bumps and bruises is crucial for their physical and mental wellbeing. Let's explore why experts are advocating for a more hands-off approach to parenting and how we can strike the right balance between safety and healthy risk-taking.

The Rise of Overprotective Parenting

In recent years, there has been a noticeable shift towards more protective and risk-averse parenting styles. As family sizes have decreased, parents are investing more time and energy into fewer children. While this increased attention can have benefits, it has also led to a phenomenon known as "helicopter parenting" - where parents hover over their children, monitoring and controlling their every move.

This trend is evident in everyday scenarios, from playgrounds to schools. As the article notes:

"At one end are parents who, so long as they're undisturbed while engrossed in their smartphone, couldn't care less if their offspring swipes other kids' buckets and sand shovels or shoves them around on a climbing frame. At the other are those who watch over their brood like a hawk, accompany their every move and always have a steadying hand on them when they're climbing."

While most parents fall somewhere in the middle, experts have observed a growing number of overprotective parents in recent years. This shift is driven by genuine concern for children's safety, but may be having unintended negative consequences.

The Impact on Physical Activity and Health

One of the most significant downsides of overprotective parenting is its effect on children's physical activity levels. A recent Australian study published in the journal Psychology of Sport and Exercise surveyed 645 parents of primary school-aged children about their attitudes towards risk and their children's daily physical activity.

The results were striking:

"Seventy-eight percent of them expressed low risk tolerance in regard to play scenarios such as climbing trees, according to the study... Their children's daily MVPA (moderate-to-vigorous physical activity) was less likely to meet recommended minimums, and they had less adventurous play too."

This is particularly concerning given that the World Health Organization recommends children aged 5-17 should engage in at least 60 minutes of moderate-to-vigorous physical activity daily. Yet in many countries, children are falling far short of this goal. As Jakob Maske, spokesman for the Professional Association of Paediatricians (BVKJ) in Germany, notes:

"For most children, it's not even 30 minutes per day."

The Importance of Risk and Adventure in Play

While parents' instinct to protect their children is natural, experts argue that some level of risk-taking is crucial for healthy development. Claudia Neumann, a play and exercise expert for the German Children's Fund, explains:

"Parents should allow what their children feel capable of doing. They should keep an eye on them at first, certainly, but not forever stand by to serve as their safety net."

This approach allows children to:

  • Develop physical skills and coordination
  • Build confidence in their abilities
  • Learn to assess and manage risks
  • Develop problem-solving skills
  • Build resilience and learn to cope with minor setbacks

As Neumann puts it: "You only learn how to fall by falling." These experiences teach children valuable lessons about their own capabilities and limitations.

The Unintended Consequences of Overprotection

While the intention behind overprotective parenting is to keep children safe, it can actually have the opposite effect in some cases. Paradoxically, children who are overly sheltered may be less equipped to handle real-world risks when they encounter them.

Some potential negative outcomes of overprotection include:

  • Decreased physical fitness and coordination
  • Increased anxiety and fear of new experiences
  • Poor risk assessment skills
  • Lack of independence and problem-solving abilities
  • Lower self-esteem and confidence

As Neumann warns: "Constantly looking after and watching over your children only makes them fearful and insecure – and can also end up in them completely relying on you. Then they don't watch out for themselves very well and may even be unable to find their way home on their own."

Rethinking Safety: The Role of Minor Injuries

One of the key shifts experts are advocating for is a change in how we view minor injuries. While no parent wants to see their child hurt, small scrapes, bruises, and falls are a normal and even necessary part of childhood development.

As Neumann explains: "Bumps, bruises, bloody noses and scraped knees are part of childhood."

It's important to note that serious injuries are relatively rare on playgrounds and during normal play activities. As pediatrician Jakob Maske points out:

"Accidents naturally happen on playgrounds. But the most serious accidents happen in and around the home" – where kids are supposedly safe.

This highlights an important point - overprotecting children in one area may lead parents to overlook more significant risks in others.

Building Risk Competence

Rather than trying to eliminate all risk from children's lives, experts suggest focusing on teaching "risk competence." This involves helping children learn to identify, assess, and manage risks appropriately.

Elke Biesel, deputy spokeswoman for the German Social Accident Insurance (DGUV), emphasizes:

"In order to learn safe behaviour, children must learn how to handle risks. There's no safety without risks."

This approach allows children to develop the skills they need to navigate the world safely, rather than relying solely on external protection.

Striking the Right Balance

Of course, advocating for more risk-taking in childhood play doesn't mean abandoning all safety measures. The goal is to find a middle ground that allows for healthy risk-taking while still providing appropriate supervision and safety guidelines.

Some strategies for achieving this balance include:

Assessing risks objectively: Consider the likelihood and severity of potential injuries, rather than acting on fear alone.

Allowing age-appropriate independence: Gradually increase children's freedom as they demonstrate readiness.

Supervising without hovering: Keep an eye on children without constantly intervening.

Encouraging problem-solving: Allow children to work through challenges before stepping in to help.

Praising effort and resilience: Focus on the process of trying and learning, rather than just outcomes.

Leading by example: Model healthy risk-taking and a positive attitude towards new experiences.

The Role of Education and Community

Shifting towards a more balanced approach to risk in childhood requires not just individual parental changes, but also broader societal support. This includes:

  • Education for parents on the benefits of risk-taking and how to support it safely
  • School and community programs that incorporate adventurous play
  • Design of playgrounds and public spaces that allow for challenging, open-ended play
  • Policies that support children's independent mobility and free play

As we've seen, while the impulse to protect our children is natural and well-intentioned, overprotection can have significant negative impacts on children's physical and mental development. By allowing for appropriate risk-taking and adventurous play, we can help children build the skills, confidence, and resilience they need to thrive.

As Maske observes, there's reason for optimism: "Overprotective parents tend to be well educated... They're parents who read a lot on the internet and books and are unsettled by horror stories of injured children and by all manner of how-to literature. But they usually come round."

By embracing a more balanced approach to risk and safety, we can raise children who are not only physically active and capable, but also mentally resilient and prepared for the challenges of life. So the next time your child wants to climb that tree or try something new, take a deep breath, step back, and let them spread their wings - even if it means the occasional scraped knee along the way.


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