How Millennials are redefining family with pets instead of children

[WORLD] In recent years, a significant shift has occurred in how millennials approach family planning and companionship. An increasing number of young adults are choosing to raise pets instead of having children, leading to a surge in pet ownership and a booming pet industry. This trend, often referred to as the "fur baby" phenomenon, is reshaping societal norms and challenging traditional notions of family.

The Rise of Pet Ownership Among Millennials

Millennials are at the forefront of the pet ownership trend, with nearly a third of U.S. pet owners belonging to this generation. The emotional connection between millennials and their pets runs deep, as evidenced by a recent survey where more than a third of millennial respondents stated they would turn down a higher-paying job to spend more time with their animal companion.

This surge in pet ownership stands in stark contrast to declining birth rates. In 2022, the percentages of U.S. women between 30 and 39 who had never had children reached their highest levels since at least 1976. As traditional family structures evolve, adopting a pet has become a new milestone for many millennials.

The Pet Industry Boom

The increasing focus on pets has led to a significant boost in pet-related spending. According to a MarketWatch report, pet spending increased by 67% from 2013 to 2021. This growth has given rise to a variety of pet-centric businesses, including:

• Dog cafés
• Luxury cat hotels
• Boutique pet stores
• "Pawtisseries" serving artisan pet treats
• Custom pet apparel shops
• High-end pet boarding services

For example, San Francisco's Dogue offers minimally processed artisan treats like pastries and "dogguccinos" for dogs. In New York City, District Dog makes pup-friendly birthday cakes, while Love Thy Beast sells custom dog apparel.

The Emotional Bond Between Millennials and Their Pets

Many millennials view their pets as more than just animals – they see them as family members, confidants, and even "soul mates." This deep emotional connection is exemplified by pet owners like Yena Kim, who describes her Shiba Inu, Bodhi, as her "soul dog."

Kim's dedication to Bodhi led her to quit her dream job at Ralph Lauren to spend more time with him. She created a social media brand, Menswear Dog, featuring Bodhi modeling menswear outfits. Kim says, "Bodhi and Luc have forged a path for me and with me," adding that taking care of her dogs has given her an "immediate sense of purpose".

Pets as Alternatives to Children

For some millennials, pets offer a sense of companionship and purpose traditionally fulfilled by children, without the lifelong financial and emotional commitment that comes with raising a child. Hayley Kellard, a 40-year-old from the UK, exemplifies this mindset:

"I say I get 'proody' instead of 'broody,' because if I see a puppy I'll just sit on the floor and let it climb all over me. I just think dogs are less demanding, they're so much fun, they're so affectionate, and they mostly don't have tantrums."

Kellard adds, "I generally just find dogs a lot more relaxing than children. Children seem to need a lot more attention than dogs do".

The Downside of Excessive Pet Pampering

While the love and attention millennials shower on their pets can be heartwarming, pet trainers and veterinarians warn that excessive pampering may lead to health and behavioral problems.

Behavioral Issues

Mark Van Wye, CEO of Zoom Room, a chain of indoor dog-training gyms in the U.S., cautions against treating dogs as "fur babies":

"We are not their parents, they are wholly different species from humans, and there is a total language barrier. This can lead to aggressive behavior, especially if they feel their 'rights' are being threatened. It's like giving a kid all the candy they want and then wondering why they're bouncing off the walls".

Anxiety and Stress

The American Pet Products Association reported a significant increase in the use of calming products for pets, with growth of 168% for dogs and 174% for cats since 2018. Van Wye explains that dogs constantly doted on or treated like they're fragile often struggle with anxiety when left alone:

"They've grown so accustomed to being the center of attention that they don't know how to cope when that attention isn't there".

Pet Obesity

Physical health is another growing concern. A 2022 survey from the Association for Pet Obesity Prevention found that 59% of dogs were considered overweight or obese, a 3-point increase from 2018. Sean Prichard, head canine fitness coach at Pant & Wag, attributes this issue to owners feeding their dogs as if they were children:

"Instead of feeding the dog on a set schedule with a set amount, I have several clients who feed their dog whenever the dog 'asks' for food, and this includes giving the dog bites of human food".

The Impact of the Pandemic on Pet Behavior

The COVID-19 pandemic has also left its mark on pet behavior, particularly for young dogs that spent their formative years constantly surrounded by their owners. Dr. Eliza O'Callaghan, a managing veterinarian for Small Door Vet's New York City locations, notes:

"Now, as people return to the office, many of these dogs are struggling with significant separation anxiety".

Pets as Practice for Parenthood

While some millennials choose pets over children, others see pet ownership as a stepping stone to parenthood. Michael Wang and Adriene Wong, a couple in their late 30s living in New York City, describe their corgi, Dash, as their "starter kid."

Wang initially resisted getting a dog due to fears of commitment and responsibility. However, after welcoming Dash into their lives, the couple found that caring for him taught them valuable lessons about patience and responsibility. Wong notes:

"There's a lot more that goes into raising a human being than a dog, for sure".

Finding Balance in Pet Parenting

As with any aspect of life, balance is key in pet ownership. While the love and care millennials provide to their pets can be beneficial, it's important to avoid going overboard. Wang acknowledges this challenge:

"We love them. We want what's best for them. Do we go overboard? Yeah, maybe sometimes. And then we'll reel it back".

The Future of Pet Ownership and Family Planning

The trend of millennials choosing pets over children is likely to have long-term societal impacts. A recent study published in The Lancet predicted that by 2100, more than 97% of countries and territories will have fertility rates below the levels needed to sustain their populations. Meanwhile, pet ownership continues to rise globally.

In China, where the human population has been shrinking, the urban pet population is expected to surpass the country's number of toddlers by 2030. This shift in demographics could have far-reaching implications for economies, healthcare systems, and social structures.

The millennial generation's approach to pet ownership is reshaping traditional notions of family and companionship. While pets provide love, comfort, and a sense of purpose, it's crucial to maintain a balanced approach to pet care. As the pet industry continues to grow and evolve, responsible pet ownership should remain at the forefront, ensuring the health and well-being of both pets and their human companions.

As society adapts to these changing dynamics, it's clear that the bond between millennials and their pets is more than just a passing trend. It's a reflection of shifting values, priorities, and definitions of family in the modern world. Whether choosing pets instead of children or using pet ownership as a stepping stone to parenthood, millennials are carving out their own unique paths to fulfillment and companionship.